Have you ever been frustrated with a project or task you’re working on? Are you beyond the point of anger and confusion of dealing with a client or coworker? These uncomfortable feelings often arise because we have a problem with setting expectations or taking action steps that align with the goal. It’s not an issue that is a one-sided failure; rather, a result of poor communication.
We often assume that we’re in agreement with our clients or team mates because we use the same words to describe the expected outcome, but the frustration sets in when the visual or physical product looks completely different from what our minds perceived. For example, let’s say we’re agree to paint a picture of a city skyline and sell it for a profit. Both parties paint their versions of the same skyline and the outcome appears completely different. How does this happen and is this really a problem?
Here’s how I’ve learned to deal with unfavorable outcomes. It’s important to remember that there is always room for improvement, and with adjustment, you can achieve expected results!
- Stay in the Moment! Stop the drama playing in your head and continue to communicate. We’ve all been disappointed and have acted out in, in our minds, what we want to say or do to the other party. These negative thoughts do NOT help the situation. Instead of running away from the problem confront it and talk through it with your partner, client, or co-worker. When you talk about the problem and trouble shoot for solutions, something positive comes out of that confrontation.” [Read The Muse: How Resilient People Get Through Really Hard Times]
- Seek the advice of Good Counsel. Talk to a mentor, your counselor, or a wise friend who won’t repeat your conversation. Theses are the best resources to vent your initial anger to because they will help you focus on the true issue and provide constructive feedback. After you’ve blown off steam, your mind is clear and you can continue to work through the frustration with the perspective of getting back on track. It’s important to never confront the source of your frustration while angry; it only makes a bad situation worse. Instead, talk it out, calm down and prepare to calmly confront the other person. [See Forbes: 3 People You Should Actually Take Advice From]
- Keep Working! Don’t end your project on a bad note because of an initial hiccup of differences. We’ve all been victims of the infamous “deer-in-headlight” momments; but, it’s important to step away from this mindset and keep moving! Do what you need to do let the anger go, then get back to work, because you’re not finished. You will be victorious! [See 12 Examples of Persistence Paying Off]
Now it’s time for you to get out of your funk and put these bullet points into action! You can and you will conquer this problem! Remember to stay in the moment, seek out good advice, and keep working!
Yours in the bond (and the struggle),
JRobinson, Owner and Founder JRobinson Digital Media Services