Let’s face it, being an adult is hard work! And if you were anything like me as a kid, you couldn’t wait to grow up! I wish I could tell the younger version of myself to enjoy the moment and embrace being a kid, because being an adult is not an easy thing!
Do you know one of the hardest things I found about being an adult? Dealing with childish “adults”. These are the humans that are technically considered adults (they’re over 18; many of them well into their 30’s and 40’s) but their thoughts and actions are immature.
Here’s another tough thing to deal with about growing up. We all have our burdens to bear. Most of us don’t talk about our issues because we’re not looking for sympathy and we don’t want to weigh others down. So we keep our feelings to ourselves, holding our emotions inside until we reach a boiling point and explode. This is not a healthy way to deal with one’s emotions; mentally or physically. There is a better solution, but it involves what’s so hard to do: maturity.
What I’ve recently discovered and have put into practice is sharing life’s difficulties through conversation with true friends. The true friendship aspect is the most important element of opening up. Talking to someone you can trust helps improve your outlook and perspective on things. You will never know if someone can relate to what you’re currently going through unless you verbally communicate your feelings. There’s an added bonus to this type of vulnerability. The person you confess your deepest thoughts to may have actually experienced your current situation and can help! Here’s another kicker: you might be going through the same thing that the person you confided in is and you can help each other out!
I recI invited a friend for coffee that I knew had been struggling, but she had not told me the source of her problems. The day we sat down over coffee was the time that she started to open up. As she was talking, I realized that I had encountered the same problem! Her words confirmed that I was not alone in my way of thinking and that I should not have second guessed what my instincts told me were the truth. We helped each other that day, and it was such an encouraging experience. It was the kind of experience that encourages me to commit to get outside of my head and share my inner thoughts with the right people.
I challenge you to do the same thing. I promise, the experience will not leave you with your head hanging down; it’ll be more like having a 180 attitude about what you’re going through.
JRobinson, Owner and Founder, JRobinson Digital Media Services